Daddies, Things you shouldn’t be doing in front of kids!

It is highly important to filter your behaviour when around kids. We want to teach so much to our children yet we fail to follow what we want to inculcate in them. As parents, we must behave in the most congenial manner so that the little ones grow up to have a well balanced personality.

As fathers, you can do a lot which can help in bringing up your sons to respect women and daughters to trust the men in their life. Though mothers spend more time with their children but fathers can cast a deeper impression on the young minds. Whatever you do or say is being scrutinized by the kids all day long and without conscious efforts, it gets ingrained in their brains. The way they act, especially the sons, is influenced by how their fathers perform at home. Your children are not only your reflection in appearance but actions as well. Raise your sons with the qualities you want in your daughter’s partner and raise your daughters to stand up for their rights and against injustice!

Have a look at these little changes you should bring in your demeanor for attaining bigger and positive changes in the lives of your children. Remember, kids have a loose tongue so dont cringe the next time they bite you in your butt.

Daddies, keep an eagle eye on these pointers:

• DON’T SHOUT- Even if you feel the urge, do not shout at your wife. Get hold of yourself no matter how angry you are. Both of you can sort it out when in your bedroom but under no circumstances should you lose your temper in front of the kids. Nothing is more terrifying for a kid than to watch his parents blow up at each other. This may give birth to countless insecurities in your children.
• DO NOT DEMEAN- Do not demean your wife in public. You shouldn’t be doing that behind the curtains as well! You need to respect her and value her choices or decisions. The children should feel that their mother is looked upon by their fathers and everyone else.
• NO HITTING- Dare you hit her, not even in your dreams. There should be no room for physical violence in your house. If your son finds you doing so, he would stand in your path once or may be thrice but eventually he’d succumb to it. He might physically abuse his wife in the future. He should learn to express his feelings in front of a female without violence and threats. On the other hand your daughter might just start mistrusting every man who comes in her life including you. What if she turns into a misandrist?
• A HELPING HAND- Be a good help to your wife in every way you can. Lend a hand to everyone in your family. Show your kids how essential it is to assist in the daily chores. They should share equal responsibilities with their mothers or siblings. They should learn to enjoy work than dragging their feet every time they are asked to pick up their glass of water.
• NO CUSS WORDS- Stop using curse words. Stop it right at this moment. You don’t want your kids lashing out *beep* words in front of your guests or their grandparents. Children who have a foul mouth can never be respected in a society neither can they earn love and good friends. Zip up the moment you are about to come out with a cuss word.
• BE A GENTLEMAN- Be courteous to your wife and every female you know. Watch your words and conduct in front of them. Hold doors for them, give up your seat or wait for them to be seated before eating your food. Put their comfort above yours. You need to be polite and chivalrous for your sons to honour and value females.
• STAND UP FOR THE WOMEN- Stand up against injustice or unfair treatment. Protect your family and speak up against the wrongs. Don’t just be a spectator who fears the consequences. Whenever you find a woman in trouble, offer her help. Don’t wait for others to initiate. Be a superhero for your children and teach them to be a rock for every person in need. Your sons should realise the significance of speaking up for the right and against unjust behaviour.
• COMPLIMENT- Compliment your wife and daughter about how they perform or behave for your sons to understand that there is a lot more to a woman than her body. Don’t keep grumbling about how fat or skinny they are. Make them feel beautiful whatever their shape be. Your children should learn to accept their bodies and love themselves.
• DISCUSSIONS- Talk to your children about the important decisions you want to take. Make them a part of your ups and downs. Share everything with them. Don’t keep things to yourself. Most importantly when you share your highs and lows with your wife, it reflects the fact that you value your spouse. Kids need to master the art of listening as well as speaking their hearts out. Be a friend to them and encourage them to speak about their life and issues. They should come to you than knock at a friend’s door fearing your reaction.
• CRYING IS NO CRIME- If you find your child or even spouse crying, don’t belittle them for doing so. Let them know that things would be fine and they can share their problem with you. Remember, your kids should learn to vent out their feelings. If you avoid crying in front of them or warn them from doing so, they’d choke back their emotions which is only going to make them disassociated. Encourage your sons to cry when they feel like instead of telling them that its not a boy thing.

Fathers play a pivotal role in shaping the character of their children, particularly their sons who directly or indirectly model themselves on their dads. Be their lodestar and present before them a life based on integrity, clear conscience and character strength.